Yep, it's almost here, that time of year that reminds you of how painfully single you are. Or, if you're with someone, it's that time of year that sets ridiculously high standards for how you are to show your love for each other.
I've never been a big fan of Valentine's Day. Even when I'm in a relationship, I try to make it low key. It can be a special day, sure, but much like birthdays and Christmas, if you wait for one day to show your love to someone, you're probably doing it wrong.
All that aside, Valentine's Day is a wonderful holiday. It commemorates the tireless efforts of Saint Valentine, who risked persecution and imprisonment for aiding Christians during the oppressive Roman Empire, even officiating at their weddings.
That's where the romantic associate comes in. Valentine defied the ongoing resistance by the Romans to Christians by helping them get married, thus showing an affirmation of the love and commitment between two people.
Today it's more about chocolate and sex, but you get the idea.
There is a lot of pressure that gets put on men for Valentine's Day. The traditional expectation of the holiday is that a boyfriend or husband puts together an amazing day of experiences and gifts for his special lady, including chocolate in those big red hearts, a romantic dinner, and other various events.
The woman gives to the man... well, you can imagine.
In real life, I've never seen the kind of vitriol exhibited towards Valentine's Day as I've seen in TV shows. How many sitcoms and dramas have you watched over the years where a man criticizes Valentine's Day, saying it was only invented by greeting card companies (an excuse used for every holiday from Easter to Christmas) and therefore he refuses to get his wife or lady a present?
Then at the end of the episode, he gets browbeaten into doing something, or it was a ruse all along.
I can think of at least three shows, in the last year, who pulled out this trope.
But honestly, how hard is it for a guy to show a little bit of consideration for the lady in his life? (and vice versa, ladies!) Nobody is saying you should hire a pilot to write her name in the sky, or book the Plaza Hotel for one expensive night of passion.
Just show her that you love her.
Even that seems to be too much for some people. And I can understand. Our overly-commercialized society has turned a relatively simple holiday- one that was meant to remember a dedicated saint- and ruined it. Ads and shows make it seem that unless you're pulling out all the stops or even, gasp, bringing out that coveted engagement ring, you're doing Valentine's Day wrong.
It can put a lot of pressure on a guy, especially one who might not be as romantically creative as some others.
You also have to consider the response from other segments of our society. Imagine the ire and bitterness this holiday inspires among feminists. A day devoted to love, chiefly love shown by an alpha male seeking to woo his desirable female! That flies in the face of much of the modern feminist's ideas about independent women, who don't need men to satisfy them.
I mean, a day that celebrates love between couples!? Surely that's a scheme from the patriarchy!
Some feminists- and by some I mean all- have even worked to co-opt this day of love to focus on the brutality of men against women.
Because that's an appropriate response.
Valentine’s Day presents an opportunity for both men and women to express their devotion to their beloved in meaningful ways. Sadly, some feminists want to use this day to protest male violence and, no doubt, other male failures. Their goal is to supplant Valentine’s Day with V-Day—Violence Against Women Day—until violence stops. (via The Federalist)
If I were a psychiatrist, I'd have much to say about women who are so hostile to men that they use a day celebrating love to highlight abuse.
Violence against women is appalling and must not be tolerated at all. Yet their choice to hold this day of activism on the same day that celebrates love between men and women is telling. Instead of using love to eradicate hate, they highlight a painful and shameful global problem.
The intention is obvious: to undermine love between men and women to promote their ongoing war with men.
Then, of course, there are the social justice warriors. These politically correct, emotionally warped people seem to detest anything that acknowledges and embraces traditional gender roles. Or anything traditional, for that matter. So, of course, something as ancient and important as a day celebrating romantic love should be warped and neutered of all its charm.
It’s almost Valentine’s Day, which means that Social Justice Internet is pumping out advice for how to handle this “oppressive” holiday in the most politically correct way possible. (via the National Review)
The National Review goes on to showcase a few of the ways social justice means to reinvent this day of love, with bizarre and downright unnatural ways people "should" express themselves.
“Hopefully your booty call is just as into consent as you are (if they’re not, ditch ‘em quick),” women’s website Romper advises. “This “No Means No” conversation heart ring ($12.50) is a sweet little statement piece.” (How romantic! Buying someone a gift to remind them to not rape you!)
Harping on the whole rape culture idea, this company wants women to be so worried about men- particularly their boyfriend or husband- trying to assault them that they want to sell them the most absurd ring in existence.
No more rings in the shape of a heart. No more romantic earrings or gem-studded necklaces. Just an ugly ring that will serve as a constant reminder that this lady is not interested in your sexual advances.
So why are you with her, anyway?
Some of the other chestnuts SJWs have for us is to make Valentine's Day an opportunity to "engage in diversity." What the hell does that mean? Should I invite several more people to our exclusive date? Do I need to make sure I'm dating a person with a different enough ethnic background than mine so I can appease the diversity police? What happened to connecting with someone on a personal level, looking past appearances or skin color, to see the person on the inside?
Of course, some say Valentine's Day offends asexual people, and so it's wrong. So what? How many asexual people are out there? Are they really upset over one day of traditional romantic love? I have the feeling that an asexual person (which may not exist) have larger problems than worrying about what other people are doing on Valentine's Day.
This, like much of the rest of the social justice/Socialist campaign, is about eroding an individual's basic human rights. They want you to give up your fundamental rights of self-determination, self-will, and independence, for the demands of our society, or their view of our society.
You need to put aside the love you feel for your SO, because it might offend a feminist, asexual, or some other marginalized fragment of society. Your private, personal liberties don't really matter, in their overall scheme- err goal- for a homogenized, universal, freedom-less society.
To that, I say: fuck 'em.
If you have someone you love, show them you love them in the most obnoxious, glorious way possible. Buy those chocolates, go to that fancy restaurant, rent out that hotel room.
Write their name in the sky, sing karaoke, make the whole world see that you love each other.
Don't let the nagging prudes of the regressive left hamper your fundamental right to love.
And if you're single, hey, there's always next year.